Monday, January 18, 2016

Undermining myself

As I reflect on my life today I am amazed by how much times I have belittled myself. This thought has come to my mind as I am listening to motivational videos by Les Brown. Maybe it may be that I have been underminning myself because I thought of myself as little in relation to others. To some extent I was correct in doing this, because those ahead of me are more experienced than I am. Today I discover that I should not devalue myself because of this. In the same way that I am not perfect those ahead of me are not perfect. I as a little man might know something the one I look up to does not know.

"Life shouldn't be looked at from one angle, there are many sides to life."

I like to say when looking at those taller than me, "I am a short guy and you are a tall guy, I will grow. What will you do stretch?!

These two different concepts, growing and stretching, are in the end done to allow the same thing, growing. For me however he who is fully grown does not have the opportunity to grow. I who is short has the opportunity to grow, discover more... I might be privilleged enough to achieve more than he who has fully grown already.

"You don't get what you want in life, you get what you are. Believe in yourself." - Les Brown

When a thought came to my mind to help me overcome a barrier, I did not take it seriously. I waited for another to repeat the same thought to be really inspired by the thought.

"At the end of the day we must realise that we are all the same regardless of our differences. We all end up having the same thoughts in the end."

How I did it?

First and formost I must admit that I have not been completely clear on how I overcome my difficulties each day presents and what caused me to be physically disabled today...

The day I was coming back from primary school I was completely torn apart. I was doing grade 4 at the time. I was torn apart because those close to me began to distance themselves from me. My friends. They began to distance themselves from me because of my new physical state. Eventually this lead me to thinking of running away from home and the ones who loved me the most, my grandmother and mother. This thought made me weap tears of pain. At the same time however a spark of hope was shinning deap down in my heart. I thought if I am to run away from home will the ones who reject me feel the most pain, no. My grandmother who told me not to go to church on the day I was involved in a car accident would be under immense pain.

Honestly speaking I am physically disabled today because of rebellion. I did not listen to my grandmother on the morning she said, "Ziggy do not go to church today. At the time my grandmother told me this I did not appreciate the fact that maybe she knows something bad will happen to me on that day coz you never know.

"A man maybe taller than his father, but will never be wiser than him."

Sunday, January 17, 2016


"Practise doesn't make perfection, practice makes permanance" - Les Brown



Practice vs. practise

In the main varieties of English from outside North America, practice is the noun, and practise is the verb. For instance, we would say that a doctor with a private practice practises privately. There is no such distinction in American English, where practice is both a noun and a verb, and practise is not used at all. Canadian English also favors practise as the verb, but practice appears with relative frequency as a verb (about a third as often as practise). - Reference:

"Running to run can't be just be another activity you choose to do daily, it has to be true lifestyle change. It has to be so elevated that it becomes part of your character."

If you haven't achieved a true lifestyle change hope that you be alive tomorrow to change your imperfections. Life is not a garuntee.

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

My Appreciation

What you going through is only temporary - John Cena (Not said directly, I think, but has said so)

Here are other reasons why you should compare yourself to others:

I’ve struggled with it most of my life. Typically, I blame it on having a twin brother who is five inches taller with much broader shoulders. But if I was being truly honest, more likely, it is simply a character flaw hidden somewhere deep in my heart.
I’ve lived most of my life comparing myself to others. At first, it was school and sports. But as I got older, I began comparing other metrics: job title, income level, house size, and worldly successes.
I have discovered there is an infinite number of categories upon which we can compare ourselves and an almost infinite number of people to compare ourselves to. Once we begin down that road, we never find an end.
The tendency to compare ourselves to others is as human as any other emotion. Certainly I’m not alone in my experience. But it is a decision that only steals joy from our lives. And it is a habit with numerous shortcomings:
  1. Comparisons are always unfair. We typically compare the worst we know of ourselves to the best we presume about others.
  2. Comparisons, by definition, require metrics. But only a fool believes every good thing can be counted (or measured).
  3. Comparisons rob us of precious time. We each get 86,400 seconds each day. And using even one to compare yourself or your accomplishments to another is one second too many.
  4. You are too unique to compare fairly. Your gifts and talents and successes and contributions and value are entirely unique to you and your purpose in this world. They can never be properly compared to anyone else.
  5. You have nothing to gain, but much to lose. For example: your pride, your dignity, your drive, and your passion.
  6. There is no end to the possible number of comparisons. The habit can never be overcome by attaining success. There will also be something—or someone—else to focus on.
  7. Comparison puts focus on the wrong person. You can control one life—yours. But when we constantly compare ourselves to others, we waste precious energy focusing on other peoples’ lives rather than our own.
  8. Comparisons often result in resentment. Resentment towards others and towards ourselves.
  9. Comparisons deprive us of joy. They add no value, meaning, or fulfillment to our lives. They only distract from it.
Indeed, the negative effects of comparisons are wide and far-reaching. Likely, you have experienced (or are experiencing) many of them first-hand in your life as well.
How then, might we break free from this habit of comparison? Consider, embrace, and proceed forward with the following steps.

A Practical Guide to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Take note of the foolish (and harmful) nature of comparison.

Take a good look at the list above. Take notice of comparison’s harmful effects in your life. And find priority to intentionally remove it from the inside-out.

Become intimately aware of your own successes.

Whether you are a writer, musician, doctor, landscaper, mother, or student, you have a unique perspective backed by unique experiences and unique gifts. You have the capacity to love, serve, and contribute. You have everything you need to accomplish good in your little section of the world. With that opportunity squarely in front of you, become intimately aware of your past successes. And find motivation in them to pursue more.

Pursue the greater things in life.

Some of the greatest treasures in this world are hidden from sight: love, humility, empathy, selflessness, generosity. Among these higher pursuits, there is no measurement. Desire them above everything else and remove yourself entirely from society’s definition of success.

Compete less. Appreciate more.

There may be times when competition is appropriate, but life is not one of them. We have all been thrown together at this exact moment on this exact planet. And the sooner we stop competing against others to “win,” the faster we can start working together to figure it out. The first and most important step in overcoming the habit of competition is to routinelyappreciate and compliment the contribution of others.

Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude.

Gratitude always forces us to recognize the good things we already have in our world.

Remind yourself nobody is perfect.

While focusing on the negatives is rarely as helpful as focusing on the positives, there is important space to be found remembering that nobody is perfect and nobody is living a painless life. Triumph requires an obstacle to be overcome. And everybody is suffering through their own, whether you are close enough to know it or not.

Take a walk.

Next time you find yourself comparing yourself to others, get up and change your surroundings. Go for a walk—even if only to the other side of the room. Allow the change in your surroundings to prompt change in your thinking.

Find inspiration without comparison.

Comparing our lives with others is foolish. But finding inspiration and learning from others is entirely wise. Work hard to learn the difference.
Humbly ask questions of the people you admire or read biographies as inspiration. But if comparison is a consistent tendency in your life, notice which attitudes prompt positive change and which result in negative influence.

If you need to compare, compare with yourself.

We ought to strive to be the best possible versions of ourselves—not only for our own selves, but for the benefit and contribution we can offer to others. Work hard to take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Commit to growing a little bit each day. And learn to celebrate the little advancements you are making without comparing them to others.
With so many negative effects inherent in comparison, it is a shame we ever take part in it. But the struggle is real for most of us. Fortunately, it does not need to be. And the freedom found in comparing less is entirely worth the effort.


LOOK INTO THE MIRROR AND RATE "YOURSELF!" - Casper Nyovest ft. Nasty c, Davido